Dear Missy Pink,
My girlfriend and I recently entered the sexual stage of our relationship. The sex is good, no complaint there, but it’s the afterwards that there is awkwardness. Am I suppose to talk, if so, what do I say? Talking about the weather probably wouldn’t be right, but the silence is uncomfortable, I’m no good at this part.
Loss of Words
You bring up a good point, talking about the weather right after an orgasm doesn’t exactly fit the post euphoria bill. Unless of course you’d word it as the heat wave you felt through foreplay and how the flash flood warning did indeed come true as she squirted her appreciation for your diligence.
You’d be surprised how many couples have issue with this afterglow moment and what to do with it. When things are building sexually between the sheets, it’s raw, animalistic nature that takes over, you don’t have to think, you just go with what feels good, but now you’ve caught your breath and have the ability to again speak…but what do you say?
Don’t feel as though you need to have a discussion that lasts for hours, that’s not the case, neither one of you expect that I’m sure. Maybe something tender, like, “I really felt connected to you,” and then an embrace would be words of few, but they carry a massive meaning. For some couples, those moments afterwards is a good time to express what really felt great, maybe something different was done and a compliment is spoken, that will feed the furnace to your future love making sessions, knowing what is a turn on will almost always bring a repeat performance.
Silence can be very loud, and when nothing is said, it can make your partner feel as though it wasn’t enjoyable for you. Of course, needless to say, just rolling over and snoring is definitely enough to leave a gap of insecurity, so curtail your slumber until each of you feel complete satisfaction from your hardcore sexual experience.
Some things come naturally with time, you said your relationship is budding in the sexual department, so nourish it with after climax conversation, and by all means, don’t be afraid to share a kiss or two that will seal the delightful deal and may even take you into another round of bedroom bliss.