Dear Missy Pink,
I’ve had my fill of technology, because it’s ruining my relationship! My girlfriend and I have lived together for nearly 6 years, and she use to hang on every word I said, we would go places, do things together and have a wonderful time. Our sex life was as amazing as the rest of our relationship. About 3 years ago, she wrapped herself up in texting, tweeting and social networking, leaving no room in her life for me. I try taking her for dinner, she’s checking her phone and sending messages the entire time, we can’t go to the movies because it’s too dark in there for her to see her phone. Even when trying to have sex, if her phone goes off, she literally climbs out of bed to see who’s texted her. I want things the way they use to be!
Fed Up With Tech!!!
Dear Friend;
Don’t feel as though you’re alone in your plight for the attention of your significant other, there are people lodging complaints at the water cooler every day. There are times when something new comes along that captures the attention, and then, once the excitement wears off, things go back to being the normal, but, it seems as though this lifestyle is here to stay for many.
There’s something about wanting to be in the depths of others’ personal lives, whether it’s those sharing a friends list, or celebrities that post comment and pictures, putting a piece of themselves out there for the world to latch onto, and, for those that are engrossed on these updates, they become obsessed with knowing everything minute by minute, and, unfortunately, in doing so, they lose touch with the reality of their own lives.
Maybe a bit of self instilled discipline is called for. Talk to her, tell her you’re feeling left out in her life and ask her what’s more important, her virtual world or the life you two are building. By all means though, talk it out as a couple, don’t just put your foot down and expect her to “obey” your orders, that will push her away all together. As a joint decision, maybe instill boundaries to, meal time is shared without the bells and whistles of notifications, the only ringing to be heard is the sound of the microwave kicking off after warming chocolate for dipping strawberries into. Also, date nights are for the two of you only, pictures can be taken but the uploading is saved for the next day. And when the lights are turned out at night, so is the WIFI. The cell phone is left on the charger while batteries are placed into the vibrator, enhancing the foreplay that will have her saturating the sheets and the two of you getting back to the basics of boner meeting beauty!