Male & Female Masturbation Myths Exposed

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Masturbation Month is rounding the home stretch, so it seems as good a time as any to debunk some of the myths and rumors both men and women have heard about their self-love practices. Like last week’s tips for women from Lelo, this slate of informational tidbits and tantalizing factoids comes courtesy of sex and lifetsyle (and hardcore porn) site BaDoink.

Speaking to seologist and sex educator Logan Levkoff, PhD about the male masturbatory habits, BaDoink discovered that whether single or spoken-for, satisfied or not with their relationship, males are prone to masturbate as pure force of habit or to barely-consciously attend to physical needs. Levkoff said frequency hardly matters unless it’s causing problems: “If you masturbate many times a day and you’re missing work or giving up on sex with your partner because of it, consider seeing a sex therapist.”

Masturbation might not score you an STD but it’s not always entirely safe either. Forceful bending of an erection can result in penile fracture, a painful and unsightly injury that will eventually heal, but not before repulsing any sexual partners you might be daring enough to reveal it to. (He might’ve been injured mi-coitus, not at home alone with a bottle of shampoo and a dirty sock, but just as Prince Yashua.)

Although nobody has apparently figured out the physiological reasons for it, it appears masturbation, while healthy, doesn’t offer health benefits equivalent to sexual intercourse. Sex can for men improve blood pressure, decrease pain, and improve the health of both the heart and the prostate. Apparently masturbation doesn’t quite get that far. In fact, Tobias S. Kohler, MD, MPH of Southern Illinois University School of Medicine tells us that even the makeup of ejaculate differs when coaxed via masturbation and sex, quipping “It appears that not all orgasms are created equally.”

For women, many masturbation myths also cloud feelings about pleasuring oneself, so let’s let BaDoink dash them too, huh? Here’s a three-point list of what might be done in porn but should be left out of one’s own masturbatory habits and, at the very least, never inflicted upon a woman who’s deemed you worthy of their sexual company. “Vigorous Fingering,” which leaves fingertips and pussy lips sporting a friction burn is out. Instead slide two fingers inside and curve them upwards to find a seriously erogenous area. Whether it’s lips or legs, “Spreading Them Open,” is generally a no-no. Let limbs fall where they may and don’t insist upon widening the space between your thighs just because they do it in porn. Porn’s visual; masturbation is personal. In porn, vibrators seem to induce orgasms with a very light touch and although that’s the case for some women, it’s rare. BaDoink’s Lola Lovely says she needs to hold a vibe firmly against a particularly receptive part of her genitalia for it to have any real effect. Reminding us that real masturbation is “a lot less sexy and a whole lot more frantic” than what’s portrayed in porn, Lovely reminds us of the most important rule of female masturbation: do it yourself and find what you like. Or, for guys trying to please their ladies: let her show you the ropes and follow her lead.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have some laundry to do. Alone. With a bottle of shampoo and a dirty sock. Until June arrives.

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Lelo’s Masturbation Tips for Couples

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Dubbed ‘Masturbation Month’ by a group of fierce advocates for self-pleasure, May sees people around the world stroking their dicks and rubbing their pussies not only to relieve stress, improve general health, and ensure their organs are functioning as expected, but to increase awareness of this most intimate and personal style of lovemaking amongst those who would otherwise believe it a blindness-causing sin. Lelo, preeminent makers of the world’s finest intimate lifestyle products, has other ideas for Masturbation Month 2015, however, and provided some brilliant tips for couples ready to explore masturbation both individual and mutual. Here’s a taste…

– Destigmatize masturbation by treating it like any other sexual act, says Lelo. “Arbitrary distinctions between what is sex and what isn’t can hamper you from fully expressing yourself… a good way to start is by ‘just’ masturbating with your partner, not treating it as foreplay.”

– The simplest advice is often the best. Case in point: pay attention! “Both show your partner what exactly it is that you want sexually, as well as learn the same of them.”

– Make some changes to your own masturbation routine – add a new toy, switch hands, get creative (but not lethally so) with some neckties or vegetables and “learn new ways to reach climax both by yourself and with your partner.”

– Instead of whining and pining for an absent lover, use the distance as a tool to find new ways to enjoy each other. Try embracing every techno-tool you can to keep each other aching for contact, then let off steam by pleasuring yourselves together over a video chat.

– Many women (and some men) find most pornography a turn-off, largely because they don’t know what’s out there. “There are filmmakers dedicated to improving pornographic movies to better present female pleasure and feminist themes. Just as you compromise on what TV show to watch after dinner, you can compromise and foster tastes as a couple.”

– Respect and enjoy your need for a truly solitary experience: “Masturbation is healthy and fun, but it can be important to also have moments to yourself, and respect that you partner’s appetites for sex (alone or together) may differ from yours.”

Lelo’s masturbation advice for couples can be read in full at BaDoink, where many Mr. Pink readers are already enjoying some top-notch meat-beating inspiration in celebration of Masturbation Month.

For some great masturbation videos, Mr. Pink’s suggests FTV Girls

Christian XXX’s Transgressive Porn

christian xxxScour the comments section of any popular video site, concentrating your reading on movies and scenes starring the heavy-set, hairless, and smirking Christian XXX and you’ll find numerous viewers lamenting the man’s work and, sometimes, his very existence in the adult industry. It often seems like there’s no other male pornstar who raises the ire of porn lovers than the man formerly known as Maxx Diesel. Now, as Mr. XXX launches his very own transsexual hardcore site, Pure TS, we take a look at one of porn’s most devoted and inspired (yet oddly ridiculed) men.

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Starting out in adult entertainment after a stint as a bouncer in Las Vegas, Christian found his entry point through director Chi Chi LaRue, who suggested performing in gay instead of straight productions, citing the higher pay. Joining Falcon Studios and shooting as Maxx Diesel, our guy soon became a popular performer and began to branch out into hetero work. Taken under Kink.com’s expansive black wing, Christian expanded his repertoire by letting strap-on-equipped women penetrate him and by shooting with the growing stable of Kink’s transsexual stars. Clearly, this flirtation with non-hetero sex and non-cis performers irritated some less open-minded (or perhaps repressed) – hence the oft-bandied insults the “haters” toss in his direction.

Christian’s latest venture should be heralded as a significant moment in mainstream porn, what with his recent Kink and Evil Angel successes increasing his popularity in the straight world and urging those viewers to expand their horizons, homo-reluctance be damned! Pure-TS takes viewers on a journey into transsexual hardcore guided by a veteran adult performer with plenty of straight work under his belt – a rarity in the usually isolated TS porn world.

“I wanted to create a site that would be something I’d enjoy visiting as a consumer,” Christian announced in the Pure-TS press release upon the site’s launch. “It had to be user friendly, intuitive, and feature top talent. That’s what Pure-TS is.” The site already boasts a strong initial offering featuring such award-winning trans-performers as AVN’s Transsexual Performer of the Year Venus Lux, Sarina Valentina, Robbi Racks, Mara Nova, and Kylie Maria, each of whom acts as versatile tops/bottoms for the equally adaptable Christian. Membership costs $24.99-a-month.

As transsexual people, performers or otherwise, see greater acceptance from the porn industry and Western society as a whole, it’s likely that Christian XXX is on the cutting edge of a thrilling new trend, hopefully one that brings real, substantial change to the attitudes that have previously relegated trans-performers to low-earning adult jobs often shot in unsafe or exploitative conditions, and cast aside from other adult performers.