Kinky Clothes – Missy Pink’s Sex Advice

Missy Pinks at MrPinks.comDear Missy Pink,

My problem is with my girlfriend. We’ve been seeing each other for about a year and she has a fetish about her panties. She can barely open her dresser drawers, where she has what looks like hundreds of pairs she’s bought. I don’t mind that part, they’re pretty and sexy and she looks hot wearing them, but, she doesn’t want to take them off when we’re having sex. She says they make her feel wild when the silky material is rubbing against her woman areas. I have to just slide the crotch of her panties to one side to get into her and in all this time I’ve never had sex with her completely naked in bed. If her panties could talk, there’s stories to tell, but I’m not finding a very happy ending.

Kinky Clothes

Dear Kinky Clothes ;

Your question reminds me of an old saying, “Panties aren’t the best thing on earth, but they’re right next to it.” With that being said, it sounds as though your girlfriend definitely has a fetish for silkiness against her intimate erogenous zones. It’s a bit difficult when a certain kinky trait is not shared by both in a relationship, but, compromise belongs in the bedroom, the same as it does in the office.

Maybe it’s time for you to do some shopping, purchase a few pair of sexy, crotchless panties , giving her the ability of leaving them on, and still opening the gateway of gooeyness for your venture. Offer to get a bit wild and take a shower with her, when she’s totally naked at that time, lather up the lust and get clean and dirty at the same time. There are ways around your issue and not make it a deal breaker to your relationship.

Everyone has a little something hidden in their psychological make-up that is a turn on for temptation and tease, for some it is noticeable, for others, it may remain in just a fantasy state of mind. When the warmth of your body rubs against the softness of her underwear, which stimulates her skin and nerve endings, she finds that to be a major turn on, and, since you didn’t mention anything about their being issues as far as achieving orgasm and such, I’d say things must be satisfying as long as she can have… Hanes her way.

You want her to be satisfied, and you know what it takes for that to happen, although, your excitement needs to be addressed as well, which means a heart to heart talk and a meeting in the middle. Don’t make the conversation, “brief,” be as open as her thighs, and as truthful as the fit of her panties. If it means going from the shower to the shaft, before she’s stepped into her bloomers, then so be it. Don’t throw your relationship in the trash, because she won’t keep her panties in the drawer.

Oh, and who says her panties can’t talk, after all, there is a set of lips inside of them, move in for a closer reception, and maybe what you have to say in return will make her want to shed the silk for the natural side of hardcore pleasure.

Literature Lust – Mr. Pink’s Sex Advice

Missy Pinks at MrPinks.comDear Missy Pink,

I’m a female, 40+ in age, married to the same man for 21 years. Life has become comfortable, yes, routine and at times feeling a bit of a rut has taken over, but still, comfortable. We’re the typical next door neighbor, we both work, empty nesters, are in bed after the nightly news and Saturday nights are reserved for sex. My one relaxing act through the week is reading, and, I enjoy the dirty paperback books that need to be hidden between reading episodes. That’s how I put myself to sleep at night, dozing off between chapters. My husband recently picked up one of my books for the first time and read through a few pages. Now he’s thinking I want what’s written on the pages and he’s excited about trying different types of sexual fetish acts, and I don’t want that at all, it’s fun to read about, but, that’s where it stops. How do I tell him without him thinking I’m just not interested in getting kinky with him?

Literature Lust

Dear Lust,
Well, it’s a fine pornographic pickle you find yourself in! If you were to ask 10 women if they’d be game to follow his excitement or would they be more apt to agree with you, where reading about it is enough, I would have to first ask, how many of those 10 women are single, how many married. I say that, for a good reason.

When a couple get together and everything is new, exciting, abundantly wrapped in flirting and innuendoes, they enjoy the naughtiness of reaching an orgasm. The acts of hardcore pleasure, fetish filled moments that make them think about what’s transpired until they have the next erotic escapade. It’s all consensual and sensual when it’s fresh and new, but, as you mentioned, you’ve been married for over twenty years, so, there is this sort of adult image, an aura of being a responsible pillar of the community, things have settled down to a pace you feel good about. For singles, there is still that wildness of exploration and experimentation, for married people, it’s familiarity.

Men are visual creatures, so, as he read the pages of your book, he imagined seeing you in a sexy bit of lingerie, stockings tied around your wrists and ankles, your chest rising and falling from hard breathing as you anticipate the fetish act he’ll bestow upon you. In his mind, he may have only read a few pages, but, his imagination has taken him through volume two and three already. It may be too, he believes since that’s what you’re reading about, that’s what you want, and he’s happy to comply.
For women, we seemingly enjoy wrapping our minds around the written word. Anything can be sexy to us if it’s narrated from the pages in a manner that leaves us feeling as though we can become one of the characters….and that is the key. We place ourselves in the book, we become who we’re reading about, it’s an escape from the everyday life of who we are, and it will make for some very passionate and wet dreams through the night, but, when the alarm goes off, we return to our own bed, our own life, and our own way of feeling comfortable.

With kindness and compassion, explain to your husband that you love him, and you lust after him, but in the manner as things are now, that is what you find sexy. Tell him the books are merely fantasy, and reality is much better in your opinion. Just as he watches football every weekend and imagines himself on the field, grunting and sweating and scoring the winning touchdown, it’s a great dream, but he wouldn’t really want to take that brutal punishment each weekend. Once you make him understand he scores highly every Saturday night in the bedroom, he’ll feel like the most valuable player of your life.

Nervous Husband – Missy Pink’s Sex Advice

Missy Pinks at MrPinks.comMissy Pink,

I’m married to a wonderful stay at home Mom. My wife and I are the same age, 33, and things have always seemed to work out perfectly within our marriage. A few months ago she met a stay at home Dad, through a mutual play date, and they’ve developed a very strong friendship, even calling and texting during the evening hours. She doesn’t hide anything, but, she talks about him all the time and I found myself feeling nervous about their relationship, so, I told her my feelings. We talked calmly and she eased my ill feelings, but within days I was more upset than before and we both said hurtful things to one another. There’s been a damage done that I’m not sure can be reversed.

Nervous Husband

Dear Nervous;

You use words such as, “nervous and ill feelings,” when describing how the friendship your wife has with another man, but let’s be honest here, you’re jealous.  I found myself wanting to say, if you’re feeling insecure about this friendship, that tells me you know there are areas that have caused voids for her and maybe she’s found someone else to fill them. To look at this logically, they have much in common, both being stay at home parents, they can compare notes, complain, boast, brag, and literally go crazy over the hectic side of their days, and they know it’s completely understood. While you’re out in the work force, talking to adults and having a change of scenery, she’s been at home watching Sesame Street and carrying on conversations about how potty training works…now she has adult attention.

You didn’t mention if anything was failing in the bedroom part of your marriage, which leads me to believe you feel the connection is more of an emotional one, and if that’s the case, it could get tricky. She’s felt on her own in many ways I’m sure for quite some time, and now there’s finally a sympathetic ear and a non judgmental sounding board that has become her salvation. In some ways, that’s more satisfying than a sexual orgasm.

Since you stepped outside of the comfort zone and hurtful words were spoken, it’s going to take some time on your end to make amends, if that’s the route you’re wanting to go. It will be hard however to do your best to smooth things over if you still have that gnawing feeling in the pit of your stomach, and, if she refuses to end the friendship, one marital blow up is going to lead to another.

My recommendation would be….be honest. Sit her down, explain that you’re sorry for what you said, and even though you both were hurt, you want to discuss things as adults and at least get to a place where you don’t feel the constant flow of anger between you, and then, seek the assistance of a professional. Yes, couple’s counseling sounds like it may be called for. If you love her as I believe you do, but you feel this threatened over her closeness to another male, then you need a mediator to oversee your healing. Also, there could be the possibility that she has emotional feelings for this male friend and she doesn’t know how to deal with them, maybe that’s the cause for her to become defensive, there are many ways things could go, so, being constructive is the best route to take.

Don’t just toss away the idea of counseling, you may need to be on a therapist’s couch before you get back into the marital bed.