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Get Her Sticky and She Won’t Cry “Icky”

A study recently published by “peer-reviewed, open access journal” PlosOne.org, conducted by Charmaine Borg and Peter J. de Jong of the Department of Clinical Psychology and Experimental Psychopathology at the University of Groningen, The Netherlands has found that arousal trumps disgust when it comes to sex and that women are less likely to be turned off by something “icky” when their juices are flowing. What does that mean for the layman? Get your girl excited enough and she’s likely to try almost anything.

Quoting Sigmund Freud in its introduction – “A man, who will kiss a pretty girl’s mouth passionately, may perhaps be disgusted by the idea of using her tooth-brush.” – Borg and Jong laid the groundwork for their study, arguing that disgust has evolved to be a defense mechanism that guards the body from “external contamination”. Raising the question of Horny vs. Gross as a means to test the extent to which external stimuli (like a dick) may be rejected during sexual activity of varying degrees of, well, hotness, Borg and Jong investigated just how turned-off study participants were by blindly putting their hand in a container of lubricated condoms or split pea soup, and by being asked whether they’d bone an obese chick. When aroused, the guys responded with a rousing “Hell yeah!” When not aroused, they politely declined and elected the pea soup to be tactilely repulsive. The same rang true for females, too, as they, sexually aroused, accepted stimuli they would’ve otherwise rejected.

Still need a simpler, less nerdy version? If you’re trying to convince your girl to take it in the rear and she exhibits reluctance at every turn, spend a good amount of time warming her up and getting her blood flowing to all the right areas and then ask. She might just say yes! In any case, it’s better to take conversations in a kinky direction while you’re both aroused and not, say, eat pizza or watching football. (Unless she’s a cheese or touchdown fetishist, that is.)

Oh yeah, and this study also explains masturbator’s remorse, something we’ve all struggled with from time to time. Haven’t we?

Small Shaft Dude

Missy Pink;

I’m nearly 37 years old, and I’ve only been with two women. Everyone says I’m handsome, I work out, have plenty of muscles, I’m more than financially stable, but, my penis size is only 4 1/2″ when totally erect. I’m ashamed, so, I avoid being with women or showering in locker rooms, knowing I’ll be humiliated. I need confidence, and inches!

Small Shaft Dude

Dear Small Shaft Dude;

First of all, let me say, there’s nothing written in stone as to a perfect size for the male penis. There are many more things that go into the attraction phase of a relationship than how far “Willy” will stretch for his target. Yes, there are men out there with appendages that hang long and thick, and you always hear of women breaking out in a sweat when seeing their huge size, but, did you ever think that sweat may be from fear and not excitement?

Women enjoy being satisfied, but, with something very large in size, at times it’s painful more than pleasurable, too much emphasis is put on how great a man is by his manhood. You say you’re handsome, physically and financially fit, but even those qualities hold great importance in the more shallow minds. Get in touch with the kindness in your heart, the treating your girlfriend like a queen, honesty, and fidelity, those are just as stimulating as the size of your cock.

Do research on the many different sexual positions, there are ways to make 4 ½” feel like a foot when utilized correctly. Incorporate things into your foreplay that will pleasure you both, such as toys, oils, massages, and of course having a talented tongue will definitely go a long way in those lust filled moments. When a couple has mutual respect, and emotions for one another, it’s not what you’re packing in your pants in the bedroom, it’s what you display when in public. Be the man of her dreams, stop worrying about the man in her wet dreams.

As for the locker room, wrap a towel around your mid-section and let your buddies wonder how much you have hanging, no one says you have to make your privates… public. Be who you are, be proud of what you have, the rest will fall into place, possibly in a missionary style position??

Missy Pink

Timing Out

Dear Missy Pink,

What is a normal length of time for sex to last?

Timing Out

Dear Timing Out;

Hmmm, it sounds to me like someone may be cocked and loaded before your girlfriend/wife has even put one into the chamber? I’m happy to report, there’s no strict standard of length when it comes to lust, no one has ever said, “It must last this long or you’re not doing it right.” Sex fits moods and personalities, there are times when a quickie in the front seat of the car, parked along an abandoned road may feel like the best sex you’ve ever had, and, there will be other times when a marathon moisture session will make you feel more intimate and personally closer than you ever have with your significant other.

I noticed in your, “to the point” question, you used the word, “sex.” Let’s not forget, there truly is a difference between making love and having sex, and depending on the moods I mentioned, both can work wonderfully in a mutual agreement of arousal. Being animalistic in the form of sex is great, it unleashes the passion, the stress of the day, the buildup of bodily fluids, all in an unbridled form of fornication. When making love, it’s about the entire experience, the look across the room, holding of hands, communication, a long foreplay, the gentle side of pleasure until orgasms are complete, and yes, that does mean for you and your partner, along with a little cuddling and pillow talk afterwards.

Let the moment rule, not your erection, listen to your partner with more than just your ears, and when your mutual hormones come together, it’s all about the timing of when, not of how long.

Missy Pink

Choosey With Her Cherry

Dear Missy Pink;

I’m a 30 year old male, dating a woman 27 years old. We’ve been seeing one another for nearly a year, things are serious between us, but not to “that” point of either of us discussing a commitment yet. She is a great lady, funny, independent, intelligent, kind, and…..still a virgin. She apparently promised herself when a teenager that she wouldn’t have intercourse until she gets married. I respect her discretion, but at the same time, I am trying hard to be faithful, however, the cold showers and late night masturbation sessions are getting a bit tiresome. I don’t want to break up with her, but I do want to be in her!

Choosey With Her Cherry

Dear Choosey;

First of all, I want to give kudos to your female friend for sticking to her morals and self induced promises. Even in your swollen testicle state of mind, I’m sure you respect her for keeping herself pure, and you realize this wasn’t an easy choice for her to make and I’m sure very difficult to stick to.

The fact you’ve hung in there for this long tells me you do indeed care about her as a person, and I’m sure she is very appreciative of that fact as well. Saying this tongue in cheek of course, many men prefer to marry a virgin, there’s less criticism involved. *Smile*

Being a woman myself, I can understand the thought process, after all, your virginity is something that can only be given once, and there are a million stories in the naked city of females that regret the way their “first time” played out, and your girlfriend doesn’t want to make that a million and one stories.

You didn’t say how far things have gone between the two of you, but, allow me to interject this thought. Don’t push her, she’s made up her mind and kept her legs crossed for a reason. You’ve offered nice adjectives to describe her, telling me you’ve seen her qualities other than the sexual ones and that has kept you rounding the bases for nearly a year before having all your balls in a scoring position. You can be intimate without intercourse, and for a woman, it’s the foreplay and the romance that makes the act special. Don’t go into it with the hopes that you’ll bring those embers into a full-fledge inferno, to a point where she won’t turn back, she’ll just regret the act and hold it against you in the end.

Let her know you respect her wishes, and also let her know you’re very physically attracted to her, and you’re in no rush to plunge through her hymen for the sake of putting a notch in your head-board. You can each achieve orgasm without penetration, through mutual masturbation, and oral sex, keeping her cherry intact and also the box it came in. Be close, be satisfying, but, also be the man you seem to be, patient and understanding. Who knows, maybe you will walk down the aisle, and when it’s time for the honeymoon, you’ll know you’re going where no man has gone before. Build your friendship, the strongest foundation, and let the budding happen in areas besides just within your blue jeans. Treat her like a lady, even the most proper ones will enjoy the wetness you can create by a soft touch or the right oral approach to those delicate pink folds.

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