Dear Missy Pink,
I am one of your older readers and inquirers, but I hope there are no age limitations. I am a 64 year old female, my husband is 68 years old. Our sex life was wonderful when we were younger, a bit sparse as the family was growing up, and then once they moved out with lives of their own, our sessions increased in frequency again. Unfortunately for the past few years, and I’m sure it’s age related, we were down to just a couple sexual sessions a year, which was making my husband feel like less of a man. We visited our physician and he was put on male enhancement medication, which works beautifully, to the tune of nightly love making. My problem is, I cannot keep up with him. He has a pill to give him the stamina that I don’t feel, and would very much enjoy cutting things back to just once or even twice a week, but, he refuses to lessen his dosage. I don’t want to say no to him, but I’m a tired old woman!
Drained From Desire
Dear Drained;
So many times in letters I receive, they seem to teeter on that line of the difference between genders, and this is one of those cases. Women enjoy being held, cuddled, hand holding, a soft kiss to the cheek, all of the expressions of intimacy that can at times leave us as fulfilled as a full blown love making session. But, for men, things are a bit different. A man many times will measure himself by the notches on the bed post they will mentally make each time they’ve raised their flag on mount vagina, and, when the flag isn’t flying as high as it once was, it not only devastates the ego, but robs a male of a self worth.
In your husband’s mind….and his boxer shorts, he feels like he’s 20 years old again, and, he’s not only impressing himself, but he feels as though he’s back to being the man you fell in love with years ago. His bones may ache, and he may make old man sounds getting in and out of his favorite recliner, and, quite possibly he has to put on reading glasses to see the TV Guide, but, when he feels the rise of what use to be flaccid, none of those other signs of age matters to him.
Since you sought out the advice of your physician for the original issue, it’s apparent you feel comfortable talking with them, so, my advice would be to turn that direction once more. Have him explain to your husband that the over use of anything can be bad, not to mention there are certain side effects associated with some of the male enhancement drugs, so, if it’s represented as a medical limitation, it may be an easier pill for him to swallow.
On the nights when things at Grandma and Grandpa’s house go wild, make the most of it, wear him out a bit, put on something sexy, maybe give a little smack to his butt and call him, “Stud.” Reassure him in a not so apparent manner that the once or twice a week is plenty for you, he satisfies your female urges enough to carry you through until the next time.
I’ve always said, men have two emotions, hungry and horny, if you see them without an erection, make them a sandwich! So, keep the cold cuts coming, and when he does take his dose of meat mood medicine, forget about a snack and put out a full spread for him!