Missy Pink,
Alright, so, this is girl to girl talk time. I’ve been dating the same guy for nearly 9 months, and, I like him, he’s a good friend, and I would do anything in the world for him, but he’s boring me out of my mind! Every night it’s the same thing, we grab a bite to eat, watch television, he falls asleep on the sofa, I go to bed, and then it starts over the next day. I’m not married because I’m not into the routine and rut of that kind of life, I want to be out and doing things, painting the town red, being wild and naughty on occasion, he’s holding me back and I don’t know how to let him down easy. Any good break up lines you’d care to offer?
– Dumping Routine
Dear Friend,
Well, it certainly sounds as if you’ve made up your mind on the course of your actions. Have you tried talking to your boyfriend, explaining how you feel things are in a rut and there’s a strong difference in your personalities? Sometimes communication can make a huge difference, open doors you only saw as windows.
Apparently you’ve done a nice job of hiding how you really feel, because if he had any inclination you are as unhappy as you voiced in your question, he probably wouldn’t feel so comfortable in the evenings, to just fall asleep on the sofa and feel that everything is right with the world. Yes, routines happen, yes, ruts can be fallen into, but, it takes two to make life exciting and invigorating for both parties.
You’ve got to be willing to be open with your feelings, and, he has to be cooperative about climbing from the couch and through the doors of a nightclub now and then. Did you ever think, maybe he falls asleep more out of boredom than weariness? Perhaps he thought this was the type of lifestyle you enjoyed, and, he wanted to make you happy. It sounds like there could be two sides to this story and with neither of you talking, then that means no one is listening.
There is no such thing as a good break up line, what there is however, is a thing called honesty. Open up, tell him how you feel, either he’ll agree to being more of a party animal or he’ll have to accept your decision to end things. For future reference, if you’re going to spend that much time in a relationship, disclose what you’re looking for quickly, during the getting to know one another stage of dating, that way, no one is blindsided and you’ll feel better knowing you’ve made yourself clear from the beginning. You get what you ask for, so, it’s time to ask!