Serving a domme virtually is a safe way to indulge in your submissive nature and it makes more sense now than ever due to the pandemic. I’m Femdom Goddess Lila and have been an online dominatrix for many years. Here are a few tips to help you find an online domme to serve.
How To Find A Domme
The most common way of finding a domme are via social media, clip sites and fan club sites. Almost every domme has a Twitter account. Set up a Twitter account for your sub persona and start following a domme you feel a connection with. Many dommes have a personal website where you’ll be able to read more about the proper steps towards servitude.
Clip sites like IWantClips or Niteflirt (which is technically a phone sex site but very domme-heavy) are excellent ways of finding an online femdom goddess to serve. Buying a domme’s clips will give you a sense of her style of dominance and will help you assess whether it meshes with yours. Many dommes nowadays produce interactive clips which will enable you to interact with them for an additional tribute of course. Examples of this may include fantasy-blackmail clips where you may be asked to send in additional info or send her a pic of your tiny dick to be reviewed in a future clip.
You can generally get a good feel about a domme and what she’s all about by browsing her clip stores and reading her social media posts. This will provide you with an understanding of her limits and the type of training that she does. Many dommes offer services such as keyholding, chastity training and more.
Approach Correctly
It’s always in good form to send a tribute before approaching a domme. This shows that you are truly serious about servitude and pleasing Her. In addition, ask yourself if you can afford to serve before you approach. Many online dommes charge for their time per session and will have different rates for training over the phone vs Skype etc.
Know that payment is a must and most dommes prefer payment in cash than actual gifts. Personally, I only accept payment via a tribute sent through a third party site such as IWantClips or AVN Stars.
Payment methods such as Paypal & Cash App aren’t suitable for adult transactions since they are against TOS. In addition, Paypal reveals the names of the parties making it unsafe for both parties. If there’s no payment there won’t be any training or interaction. You only have a few tries to get it right so make sure to tribute upfront to show that you are serious.
Make sure that you address Her correctly. There’s been so many times where someone has addressed me as “Miss”when My name is Goddess Lila and succinctly spelled as such all over my website and every piece of content I’ve ever created. Little things like these show that you are attentive.
Communication Is Imperative
Be clear in your communication with your domme and your goals in regards to training. Are you aiming to be a better submissive? Do you actually want to be “trained”? Or are you looking for a session to indulge in a fetish? Are you looking to build a long-term d/s relationship or are you just looking for a quick drain? It’s also important to state your hard limits up-front. If you’re a pay pig who wants a hard drain it’s perfectly fine to let the domme know your spending limit beforehand. Most professional dommes will respect your limits.
Finding an online domme to serve can be extremely rewarding and meaningful. Do your research beforehand for the best possible outcome.