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Hi Missy Pink,

I think maybe my question is one a lot of guys have, but might be afraid to ask. I LOVE oral sex, there’s nothing like a hot blow job to really put me in the mood. My problem is, I can never find a girl that likes taking it the way I like giving it. It’s a turn on to grab her head and force it down on my stiffness, really owning her mouth, but, usually the babes get mad and put up a fight with their head when I try to do that. Why won’t women let men take control? I’m 29 years old and feel like I’m in my prime, but, I’m not getting what I want.

Macho Guy

Dear Macho,

And I use that term loosely. To be 29 years old, I have to say, you still have a lot of growing up to do. Unless you’re in a relationship where there’s the dominance and submissive side between partners, there is no control to be had. Sex, like many other aspects of life can be mutual and equal, and when you find that balance, that’s when you’ve matured and will find the women that enjoy going to bed with you. When you start using your head….you’ll get more of it!

Being force fed through fellatio is possibly one reason why women shy away from the act of oral sex, to them, having their face bashed up and down on a boner isn’t exactly the type of foreplay that excites them. Lay back, what’s your rush, let her lick and suck in a rhythm that’s not only pleasing to her, but also will become very exciting for you, and, you’ll receive much longer intervals of her satisfying sucking.

Of course, that’s not saying your desire to feel as though you are indeed a macho man should be swept under the rug. When things really heat up, there will be those moments when entwining your fingers through her hair and offering some mild guidance would be a turn on, but, when pulling her face down too far, possibly hitting gag reflexes, that certainly kills the mood quickly.

Some women may enjoy that type of brutal blow job, and then it will be a match you’ve been waiting for, but give your relationships time, grow together, experiment, do roll playing, have fun in bed, it will enhance all aspects of foreplay and the hardcore excitement as well.

Just because your mattress is firm doesn’t mean you have to be. Soften up a bit on your demeanor and appreciate how hard you’ll become in the process.

Missy Pink;

I never thought I’d be complaining about frequent sex, but, I sort of am. My problem is this, my husband, for the last few years has suddenly not been in the mood through the day, before we go to bed, first thing in the morning, none of those, his erection happens in the middle of the night! Just as I’m deeply within my REM state, he’s wanting to be deeply within me, and then I cannot get back to sleep for the rest of the night once I’ve been awakened. I have asked him why the odd hour for having sex, but, he just shrugs his shoulders and says, “At least I’m keeping it at home!” I’m glad for that fact, but, multiple times a week now I’m going without enough rest, how do I change his internal clock for sex?

Sperm Instead of Sleep

Dear Friend;

Well, first of all, I have to say, it is good that your husband is “Keeping it at home” as he says, but, something tells me if he’s out past the midnight hour with his meat filled moods, it would be a bit difficult to explain not being in his own bed, if that’s the normal way of life around your home.

It’s hard to explain what brings on the notion, what turns us on one day, might not do a thing for us the next, no matter what time of the day it is. It could be his work has him exhausted, and, after a few hours of rest, he awakens refreshed and aroused. Maybe he’s snacking on something before calling it a night, creating dreams that leave him unable to turn over in bed. If you’re clad in something besides flannel, smelling particularly sweet after your nightly shower, with the application of a new body wash, the scent wafts into his dreams and he comes to wanting what smells good enough to eat. It could be all of these or none of this, there’s no pinpointing how the erogenous zone of the brain works.

You may want to consider taking some afternoon naps, or saving your housework for a third shift sort of schedule, because, if this has been going on for quite some time, the routine may not be changing quickly. Don’t hesitate in having a heart to hard-on talk with him, express that being interrupted through the night is not giving you the most pleasant of days, and, even though you appreciate the middle of the night, hardcore adventures, if he could set his alarm for a bit earlier in the evening, you’d be able to show your appreciation a bit better.

A bit of sheet saturation during the wee hours of the morning is hot, I mean, let’s face it, who doesn’t enjoy the periodic placement of manhood when most of the world is tossing and turning, only dreaming of what you’re getting, but, when that’s the only time you get to enjoy the erotica, I can understand your lack of enthusiasm.

A meeting of the minds is definitely called for in a situation such as this, let him know, as much as you enjoy getting off, it’s not as exciting knowing you’ll then be getting up.