I might be a bit old to be writing to you, but would appreciate your advice. I’m 53 years old, have been employed with the same company for nearly 30 years. I’ve worked my way up the ladder and felt the stress of having the responsibility and what feels like the weight of the world on my shoulders every day for so long, I’ve tried everything to de-stress after a long day. I finally found what does it.
My wife is involved with many clubs and volunteer services, meaning her evenings are normally filled with one activity or another, leaving me with the house to myself. One night, I was bored, trying to think of anything but work and noticed a pair of her panties folded in the laundry basket. I’m not sure what drove me to do it, but I tried them on. The second the silkiness touched my genitalia, it was like a soothing effect unlike anything I’d ever experienced. I wore them around the house, watched TV, had a cold beer, even did some office work while wearing them, and it felt wonderful. Over the last couple of years I’ve now begun wearing her panties, bras, skirts and blouses. It’s hard to express – but, when I take off my work suit and slip into those comfortable, knit, cotton or silk items, it’s as if the world can’t get to me, I’m relaxed.
I’ve never told my wife, even though I’ve wanted to, thinking how nice it would be to share this, especially so I could feel this comfort on the nights she’s home, I truly miss the freedom when not able to fill those few hours with a refreshing style. I don’t think I’m actually a cross-dresser, and I’ve never really had gay thoughts, I’m not sure what I am.
Dear Wardrobe Malfunction;
First of all, take a deep breath. Enjoying the feel of feminine clothing against your body does not insinuate that you’re gay or anything else, it just means you’ve found what we women have known for quite some time, now and then, female attire can be liberating. There’s nothing like spending a rainy weekend afternoon in just panties and a sports-bra, it is as you said, very comfortable. Yes, there are times when donning the hosiery, high heels and office attire suits can be binding and a nuisance, leaving us hardly able to wait to get home, just to shed the layers and utter a sigh of relief.
For anyone that has a high powered job, loaded with responsibilities, there needs to be an outlet, something to keep the balance to save sanity. In your case, I think it may be a combination of a couple things, the first one being, the comfort itself of the clothing, your weighed down all day by shirt and tie, so, to sleep into a non-confining skirt and soft bra, it’s like a breath of fresh air. And, there’s also the thought of it being almost liberating for you. When you drop the boxer shorts and slip into the silk panties, you don’t feel like the worrier of the world’s best interest any more, you lose yourself into a new persona, and when you don’t feel like….you, then you don’t have all of the issues that normally fill your mind.
You know your wife better than anyone, if you feel she would understand, then by all means, share with her, that’s what marriage, any type of binding relationship is all about. If you’re afraid she would not understand and it would create a riff, then bide your time, there will come a day when you can share. I just don’t recommend allowing her to find out by walking in on you dressed as her sister, it might not be understood at all in a scenario such as that.
Also, toss those thoughts of thinking you’re a cross-dresser, or being gay out of your mind, this is merely your way of venting and kudos to you for finding an outlet. It might help a bit more if you were to do some shopping for yourself, you’re relying on your wife’s style, go to the store, pick out something pretty and comfortable just for you. My advice would be….always get control top panty hose, and black is slimming!