I’m almost too ashamed to write this letter, but, with you being a stranger it’s easier for me. My husband feels disgust towards me and I can’t really blame him. For the past 10 years I’ve been faking my orgasms, and, I did a very good job for a long time, he thought he was bringing me sexual pleasure which enticed him into cumming as well. What I didn’t tell him was that intercourse just doesn’t do it for me. Yes, we do oral sex in foreplay and I can orgasm like that, but, he wants me to do it again when he’s inside of me and I always lie and put on a show in the bedroom to make him think I’m going wild underneath him. Last weekend, after we finished, I thought he’d gone to sleep, as usual and I slipped into the bathroom, where I have my vibrator hidden and was in the process of finishing myself off when he opened the door and caught me. Now he says he feels like less of a man and he’s disgusted with me, and, I’m disgusted with myself.
Dear Orgasmic Lies;
What you’re suffering from is shared by a huge percent of the female population, it’s nothing to be ashamed over, but, it is something you can work on, and be sure to include your husband while doing so, it will be an addition to your foreplay routine that will stimulate both of you.
It’s apparent you have access to the internet, since you emailed your question to me. Start doing some research, I think you’ll be surprised at how many references you’ll find to not being able to achieve an orgasm through intercourse. It’s not an easy thing, telling your mate that you’re faking the moans and groans of pleasure, but, if there’s love, there’s understanding.
There’s been enough falsehood in your relationship, now is the time for honesty. Explain to him that it’s nothing about his manhood, or his ability to make you feel like a woman, it’s just something within you that keeps those flood gates closed while he’s housed in your saturated stall. If you’ve made it a practice of using a vibrator for clitoral stimulation for the excitement of an orgasm, your body has grown accustom to that certain stimuli, and, it could be you just need to be introduced to another means of moisture. It might take a little time, but, it will be well worth it in the end, and during for that matter, because in the process you’ll both be learning much more about each other’s bodies and desires, and that’s always a good thing.
Don’t be shy about bringing your buzzing buddy into the bedroom, share what feels good with your husband, let him use it on you, the more open the two of you become, the more satisfaction you’re going to feel from many different facets of your marriage. If he didn’t care, he wouldn’t be as hurt as he is right now, which says the foundation is there, you just need to continue building upon it.
Who knows, before long, you may be ready to toss the batteries from your sex toy and open your thighs wide for the orgasmic pleasure of having your husband plugged into you!