Tag: Sex

Missy Pink,

I’m embarrassed to ask about this but I don’t want to talk about it to anyone I know. I’m 27 years old, my Dad got remarried about a year ago, to a woman more his age, 51, and much older than me. But that doesn’t stop me from fantasizing about her. I’ve never thought of a mature woman before, but there’s something about her that drives me crazy. I think she has thoughts too, a few times she’s brushed her boobs against me and even played footsy under the table, which makes me have to masturbate to get rid of the hard-on she causes. Am I a terrible guy or just a bad boy?

– Cougar Hunter

Dear Cougar Hunter;

Well, I can honestly say, you’re not the first male to be attracted to, an older women, we cougars do know how to flirt in a way that will make your blue jeans suddenly feel quite stiff in the front.  Normally it happens during high school, when the hormones are raging and you’re carrying your books from class to class in front of you to hide the erection you’re sporting and can’t get to go down. A buddy’s hot Mom, or a certain teacher that looks delicious with her glasses perched on her nose, a deep cleavage showing from the front of her blouse, and of course those long legs that are crossed when she sits on the front of her desk to make a point, yes, normally at that age of budding puberty, a stiff wind will cause the same reaction for you.

Now, it seems to me, with you being a bit older, that doesn’t rule out the fact that a MILF can always bring fantasy and desire, but, you’re certainly old enough to not want to play in your Dad’s sandbox. If your step-Mom is flirting with you as well, shame on her. She’s taking advantage of your presumed stamina and stiffness, not to mention feeding her own ego as an older woman that can still cause a younger man to jack-off with thoughts of her on his mind.

There are certain, unspoken rules in life that offer imaginary boundary lines not to be crossed, and having wild, unbridled, hardcore sex with your Dad’s wife would certainly be on the list. I’m sure in your mind she is so hot and stimulating, that when all the blood rushes from your brain to your testicles, the moral aspect is lost somewhere between those two areas, but, for just one moment, once you’ve managed to bring yourself to an orgasm, think about what it would be like afterwards. Would you feel guilt? Would she? Would you want to do it again or would you feel so badly over the adultery aspect that it would put a strain on the family dynamics? Let’s face it, the next backyard cookout could be a bit uncomfortable, would you be passing the potato salad or making a pass at your step-Mom?

If you’re truly that turned on by the fact it’s an older women, there are plenty others in the world, you’re eyes have been opened, now all you have to do is look. There’s nothing wrong with desiring the mature and sexy creature that you know will have the erotic experience to make you feel as you have never felt before, and, at the same time, you’re proving to her that she doesn’t belong in the kitchen baking cookies, but rather draped across your bed, ready for you to bring the youthful pleasure one more time. But, something tells me, it’s the taboo side of the fact this is your Dad’s wife, it makes her off limits, it makes it so hot and naughty, the act of sneaking, the wild heat that courses through your veins at the possibility of getting caught, all of those fetish filled feelings that make you want her even more. If that’s the case, then allow your mind to catch up to the age of your body…. grow up, don’t ruin the relationship between you and your Father.

If she’s coming on to you as well, then I’d say Dad already has problems he’s not aware of yet, and, if you don’t act upon her offers, then someone else probably will, and she’ll keep looking, but if it comes out that she’s not as faithful as he thought, don’t compound his pain by knowing his own son betrayed him as well as his wife.  He gave her a ring, but he gave you life.

Dear Missy Pink, I feel like I might be losing the interest of my husband and I don’t know what to do. We’ve been married for 14 yrs, and even though sex has always been just so-so between us, still the closeness of the act always made me feel good. He would always orgasm, so I assumed that meant he was happy. About 18 months ago, I was sound asleep in the middle of the night, lying on my belly and suddenly I felt him on top of me, he was like a man I’d never known, his excitement was off the scale. Now, that’s the only way he wants to do it, with him instructing me to not move, but, for me, I feel like I’m an object, not a wife that he loves.

Dear Belly Down Disappointed;

Sometimes I think when a couple fall in love and decide upon marriage, there’s a pre cursor of thought that fills our mind, such as, we are the only thing they need in life to bring them joy, and there must be a parallel pattern to thought patterns that involve everything in life, which includes sex. You admitted your sex life for over a dozen years had only been so-so, but rather than make waves, you found the silver lining to the dark cloud, the intimacy factor and was content. Even though your husband experienced orgasms doesn’t mean it was the greatest pleasure he’d ever experienced, you know what they say about sex, even the worst they’ve ever had was still good.

I’m wondering what facet of your spouse’s new appeal to arousal disturbs you the most. My guess would be the fact that you’re on your belly and unable to experience the eye contact, the viewing of his expression during those throes of thrusting, that is where the intimacy that you mentioned is felt. Of course there could also be the feeling of not really being wanted, but instead, being taken. He is claiming his woman, marking his territory, being a manly man.

There could be many reasons as to why he’s found joy in you lying there, being submissive, while he rules the hardcore scenario, and this does teeter on the fine line of being fetish related. If it were a once in a while sort of dominance on his behalf, I’d consider it sexual play, role model type of interaction and give kudos for this being incorporated into your love-making. But, if this is the only way he wants it now, then the pleasure for you must be plummeting quickly.

It’s time to have a conversation, out of the bedroom, and maybe even out of the house. Go for a ride, stop for a cup of coffee, whatever the case may be and just lean across and softly begin making your feelings known. After 14 years together, I can’t see him suddenly becoming selfish, but I can see him accepting your views and at least considering,  even if he doesn’t openly talk about them. Keep the words few in count, but powerful in meaning, you don’t want him to suddenly hear nothing but, “blah, blah, blah,” you’ll want him to take you seriously.

When the sun goes down, bring him up! Take him to the bedroom, shower him with a little extra affection, put him in the mood to show you the same sort of attention, and then prove to him how much fun being face to face can be. A lot can be said for missionary position, so lift those legs high and let him take you in caveman style!

Missy Pink,

So consider me an abnormal woman and maybe even a bit on the crazy side, but I have grown so tired of my boyfriend’s want to have hours of foreplay! You probably don’t hear that much, but now and then I would much more enjoy a quickie, I’m in the mood to do it, let’s do it and get it done, but he thinks if sex starts at 8 pm, it shouldn’t end until midnight or after. I’m tired of the diddling, I want it fast, furious and straight to the hardcore. Am I really that different from other women?

Lingering Lust

Dear Lingering;

I must admit, your complaint isn’t one to be heard on a daily basis while sharing pink drinks with your best gal pals on a Friday night. Most women would give their favorite handbag for a man that would be as attentive and romantic.

In trying to see both sides of the coin, it sounds as if you’re trying to make change in your relationship. Even though it’s simple enough to switch your brand of laundry detergent, or you opt for a bolder flavored mouthwash, when it comes to what happens in the bedroom, often routine and comfort, play such a huge role, any straying from the normal can knock your world off its axis.

Just like with any issue of disagreement in a relationship, the key is communication. I’m sure you don’t think twice in mentioning your car isn’t running quite right and you’re going to take it in for a tune up the following day, so, why not use that same approach when wanting a tune up to your intimate routine.

I have to say one thing, kudos to your boyfriend for being the dream of a high percentage of the female gender, most of the time women are left laying beside a snoring man that rolled over, shared a few thrusts, landed his dismount and resumed slumber before his side of the sheets had time to chill. And, in trying to be sympathetic to both sides, I can see where there would be times when you’re just not in the mood for extreme foreplay, you want to feel the closeness and the release, but in a more, caveman style of taking. No one has the same sexual urge every night of the week, wants are changed as often as underwear.

As I mentioned above, it’s time to have a talk, the tongue can be used for more than oral sex, so utilize it. Make a nice dinner, and let the relaxation surmount with each course, and then, as you’ve wiped your mouth with your napkin, then start talking a bit dirty from the cleaned surface. Use finesse , make sure your lover understands you appreciate his attentive nature and you’re not saying you don’t ever want to spend hours in play mode before going in for the delivery, it’s just there are times when your animalistic urges say, “Take me, take me now!”

Who knows, maybe he’s trying to be a gentleman before juicing and there could actually be those days when you’ve been on his mind all afternoon and he’d enjoy coming home, finding you bent over the dishwasher and just manhandle you with passion. There’s a lot to be said for hardcore pleasure, just as words aren’t few in the realm of intimacy either, the trick is finding the combination that works for you both, and I think this time, it’s best to let your lips do the talking instead of letting fingers do the walking.