Dear Missy Pink,
I’m not a happy woman right now. I’ve been married for just shy of 10 years, to a man that I’ve always been turned on by, and, I thought he felt the same. He’s never had medical issues since we’ve been together, and yet, this morning, our local pharmacy called to tell me his prescription was ready for pick-up. I was confused, but, didn’t let on to them over the phone, instead, I went down to retrieve a small white envelope, holding a single bottle of pills. My heart was racing, I was afraid something was physically wrong with him that he’d not worried me with. My fingers were trembling when I pulled the bottle out and looked to see it was for Viagra! WHAT? I don’t understand why he’d be taking it, there’s never been an issue with our sex life, but, it said it was his 3rd refill of 5 for the prescription. I’m so angry, I’m wanting to erupt when he walks in the door, but, I also don’t want to handle it wrongly.
“Hard” Feelings
Dear Friend;
Okay, first of all, I’m assuming since you found the Viagra in the pharmacy bag, you’ve not jumped your husband’s bones lately, so, let’s not jump to conclusions either.
There is a vast array of issues that can cause erectile dysfunction for men, stress with the job, age, medical issues, depression, and the list goes on and on. Even though you’ve been married for quite some time, you truly don’t know how long he may or may not have been indulging in this medication, it could be something he’s taken since your dating days and you’re just not aware of it. Being a woman, I know how the female mind works, and I can pretty much state you’re thinking one of two things, either he’s not sexually aroused by you anymore, or, he’s having an affair and needs the extra boost for his boner. But, step outside the box and think past the estrogen filled logic.
Did you ever consider that he’s embarrassed to mention any problem he might be having with you? Yes, you’ve been in a long term relationship, but still, a male’s stamina and sexuality is still something they hold near and dear, and, you even said your sex life has always been wonderful, so, I’m sure he wants to keep it that way and not let you down. He may also think if he were to tell you there was a problem in the lower-forty area of his anatomy, you would jump to the same conclusion you now have, that, you don’t turn him on and he needs help. In a situation such as this, it’s normal for the male to think each time there’s hardcore sex to be had, you’re going to wonder if it’s him wanting you, or just a reaction from the Viagra.
If you’ve not noticed anything different in the bedroom, then keep this in mind. Those types of medications only do so much, but there is also the need of being excited and enticed to want things to be on the rise, and, apparently, you’re doing that for him. He’s getting up and having an orgasm with you, that’s a very good sign.
Before you assume anything, put your ego on the back burner. Sit down and talk to him in a rational manner, you may be surprised with the truth he offers, be supportive and sexy for him. If he thinks you’re disgusted and disappointed in his manhood, or, he feels you don’t trust him in the area of fidelity, it’s going to bring with it an even harder pill to swallow.
